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Dealing With the Unthinkable: Handling Affairs After the Death of an Adult Child

Posted on April 24, 2015

I was 4 years old when my father passed away. This obviously caused me a great deal of childhood trauma, and the associated financial and emotional cost to my family to “rehabilitate” me was substantial. Only as I have aged and entered this profession have I become aware that his death seriously affected many other people in the family, not least of which was my mother. But instead of choosing the more obvious individuals, let’s discuss the strain that affected his parents, my grandparents. Depending on the family’s financial dynamic, the loss of an adult child can be absolutely devastating: Some parents have placed an enormous amount of resources on raising that child, and may have sacrificed to the point

PROBATE: Beware the Court Clerk!

Posted on April 13, 2015

For those of you that missed it, my March 26th blog post spoke of the importance of being exceedingly nice to court clerks while initiating the Probate process. The clerk is (a) extremely knowledgeable as to how Probate works, (b) the gatekeeper and only individual who can begin the proceeding, and (c) a human being with feelings. As such, treat them with respect. That is not what this blog post shall cover. Clerks, like all people, are human beings and human beings are fallible. You have to understand and accept this fact, or your visits to the Surrogate’s Court will end in you wanting to drown your bad mood at the nearest Happy Hour. I have had clerks tell me

PROBATE: Be Nice to the Court Clerk!

Posted on March 26, 2015

When a person passes away, New York requires the Will and other paperwork be filed with a law clerk, in the Surrogate’s Court in the County in which the Probate Proceeding will be held. And while the Surrogate’s Court Procedures Act explains how such legal matters are supposed to proceed, each county is somewhat different as to how these requirements should be met. While these differences may frustrate an attorney unfamiliar with a certain county’s requirements, it tends to drive “Pro Se” participants (I.e. the “Do It Yourselfers” who are not attorneys) to the brink of insanity. And when people act irrationally, the administering clerk will likely transform from helpful to defensive. I was in one of these courts today

Handling the Empty Nest: Securing the Recently Departed Loved One’s House

Posted on March 24, 2015

When a person passes away there are several matters to take care of, the FIRST of which is securing the premises. One of my biggest concerns is the possible “Dash and Grab” that dishonest (needy?) family members perform when they hear of the recently departed family member and run to strip the house of assets with financial or sentimental value. And, as much as I hate to use stale idioms, “Possession IS 9/10ths of the law.” Here are steps you can take to secure a family member’s personal belongings upon their passing: CHANGE THE LOCKS: If the house was owned by the decedent, consider doing this to protect the property inside. CANCEL CREDIT CARDS / FREEZE BANK ACCOUNTS: Supplying a